Ask the Therapist
Daughter with the BPD
Dear Doctor,
My daughter has suffered from borderline pd for most of her life. She is now 26 and
desperate for help. After many Psychiatrists, she has finally found one whom she trusts. My daughter constantly complains of our family as if we were villains. I recently retired from teaching for 30 odd years. My stress level and constant episodes of rage with my daughter brought me to terms of my own physical health.
My question concerns her tales to the Dr. about the family . She comes home to tell me of the hurtful things that she and the doctor discuss about us. Shall I hear her out or even listen.
Thank You
Be patient. Don't take it personally. Remember that your daughter is relating her perception and her therapist knows that. Also, there is a fair chance that your daughter is trying to leverage you and that she and her therapist don't even talk about many of the things she relates to you. BPs are manipulative. Be careful what you believe and you don't.
As for you...take care of yourself. Your daughter is mentally ill. That is not going to change any more than if she had a physical disability. It may get better or change, but the sense of it will always be present. I understand that she is your daughter, but she's 26...time for her to take some responsibility. Again, take care of yourself...you birthed her, raised her and have helped get her to a place where she feels somewhat safe. Time for you.
