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Can't Orgasm
I have had sex a couple times now but I cant get an orgasm. I
have tried but I don't feel anything. what is wrong with my body?
There is nothing wrong with you, or your body. You have intercourse with your body, you have sex with your head. You're young, and inexperienced. It often takes time for a woman's body to relax enough physically for the emotional state of arousal she experiences during intercourse to get from her head to her genitals. In addition, I suspect that your boyfriend is also anxious, and teenage boys are notoriously "quick on the trigger", which is not going to help matters.
What you are experiencing is quite normal for a teenager or someone new to intercourse. As long as you are experiencing orgasm through manual manipulation and/or masturbation, the rest will develop with a little time, a little patience, and some experience...not to mention a partner who's a bit more experienced himself.
Make sure you are practicing safe sex.
