Ask the Therapist
Should I Keep Fighting to Live Through BPD?
I am having problems dealing with BPD. I am a 19 yr old medical assistant. I quit work about 5 months ago after almost dying from a major overdose. I seem not to be able to get myself to go back to work. I really need to make money, do to the fact I have car payments, and other bills. I need to know, how I am going to be able to deal with work. Should I try to go on some type of disability? Is there any disability that I could be on for this disorder? I do not qualify for social security or disability through my old employer. I have also recently fallen in love with a great guy. Last night he asked me to marry him. I am afraid that he does not know what he is getting himself into. Should I turn the offer down? I don't want to screw his life up too. And I feel that I will do that if I do marry him. I am in therapy, and I have a great therapist. She has helped me a lot. I feel that my life is going no where, and that it never will. Am I wrong about this? Is there hope for me? Should I keep fighting to live through this illness?
Firstly, BPD is a learned behavior. Anything that can be learned can be unlearned, so, yes, if you work hard you can overcome your current situation. As for your
fiancé, you need to be honest with him. He needs to be informed, so that he doesn't get drawn into your behavior, as so many of us who care about BPDs do. And finally, I do not know if disability is an option for you - you need to check with an attorney who specializes in ADA and CHRO.
