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Relationship with a Sufferer of the BPD
I was involved in a very intense relationship with a person with
BPD. after 7mo. and no warning and alot of sincere love he met another woman and started a relationship with her. I confronted him, he
replied with much anger and said; we never had any commitment and If I thought we did it was in my own mind. I've been through alot with this person in a short time . He has all the symptoms of BPD. Please ,could you give me some advise on how I can resolve my
dilemma
I still love him and would like to be his friend. Is this behavior familiar to a person with
BPD?
ps. I'm in therapy and have talked and worked hard on my own issues concerning this
relationship, but I needed advise from someone who understood BPD.
What you describe is indeed consistent with someone exhibiting BP features. Please remember that this is not a diagnosis, just an opinion based on what you've said. I can appreciate that you feel love for this person, but he was unfaithful, lied, was verbally abusive, abandoned you (or at least the relationship) and sounds like he has been difficult to deal for the whole period of your relationship. How does staying in relationship tot his man serve you in any way? That's what you need to look at.
